Love hurts…. Really ?
My good friend, Dr. Jerry Dias, sent me a message in the beginning of this year, which read – God has decided to take over some activities/ Holidays of 2018.
Valentine’s Day – Feb. 14th – Ash Wednesday
April Fools’ Day – April 1st – Easter Sunday
Our Parish priest talks at length on the origins of Valentine day. Indeed, one of the words most used for movies, songs, quotes, philosophical talks and also variedly mis-understood is the word LOVE.
I would like to do a different take – one which will resonate both with the young and old. Love Hurts. Almost everyone would say, “Yes, I agree” blah blah… But can we do a small analysis into our belief systems because wrong knowledge leads to false belief systems which evolve into false convictions and our emotions blindly follow the pattern.
The only way to break this mold is to have proper scriptural knowledge and refine and re-educate our thinking, our words and our actions.
Hosea 4 :6 says, “…my people are destroyed from lack of knowledge”. Let’s look at Godly wisdom to enlighten us on whether ‘love hurts’?
1 Cor. 13 is known as the Dictionary of Love with St Paul laboring to explain what is the definition, scope and function of love. I am sure many of us know this by heart and have even sung different hymns based on this. Now its time to practice it in our lives.
“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
If we let the Word of God transform our thinking and our thought processes, our whole approach to human relationships will change.
If we say Love hurts, then it’s a expectant and conditional love, not the love of God. According to God’s definition of love, we must sacrifice or give up envy, boasting, arrogance, rudeness. We have to give up our “right” to keep a record of past offenses. We must surrender the option of running away when the going gets tough. We have to sacrifice our desire to insist on our own way.
First John 3:16 says it another way: “By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers.”
We all experience pain in life, whether emotional or physical pain. No pain is alike, we must all walk the journey and path that God has for our lives, yet God promises that there is a purpose in all pain. We can press on each day knowing that our God loves us and wants to use the hurt and pain in this world to bring Him glory. Put on the mind of Christ (as you see in the cover picture) and the way you see the world will change. And when that happens they way you deal with people will change. The illusions created by our faulty mind sets will change. Philipians 2:5.
Let us begin this Lenten season with a reflection of God’s love for us and how he expects us to love one another. I end with the golden scripture verse which is the hallmark of the Lenten season.
“For God so loved the world, that He gave us his only Son, that whosoever believes in Him, should not perish but have everlasting life.” John 3:16 May a holy and loving Lenten season be with you all.